In light of the recent Sandy Hook tragedy, we thought it would be valuable to share some guidelines:
- Turn off the news: TV coverage is too graphic and overly dramatic. The repetition of such scenes can be disturbing and confusing.
- Have a conversation: It’s best not to force children to discuss the incident, however, adults need to be open and ready to answer their questions. Often times, children are “loyal” to their parents non-verbal cues. They think, “Maybe I shouldn’t talk about it cause my parents aren’t.” Start with what they already know, and go from there.
- Reassure your children that they are safe: Children will do as well as the adults around them. So dealing with our insecurities and fears away from our children is helpful. Talk about the people in their life who keep them safe every day.
Events of community violence are not easy for anyone to comprehend or accept. Understandably, some young children may feel frightened or confused. As parents, we can best help by listening and responding in an honest, consistent and supportive manner.
Excerpts taken from: Crisis Management Institute and AACAP